Nineteen years ago, I lost my husband, the father of my daughter. That loss is where this work began.
In the aftermath, I saw two things clearly. First, how little room the world makes for the real, ongoing, non-linear experience of grief, the expectation that you should be “getting over it” on some kind of schedule. Second, and just as important, how often people who were experiencing real connection and communication with their loved ones who had died were shut down, dismissed, or made to feel like something was wrong with them for it.
Building a Different Kind of Support
That was the beginning. I started building the kind of support I wished had existed for me, spaces where grief didn’t have to be rushed or hidden, and where people could talk honestly about the connections they were still experiencing with the people they’d lost, without being told they were imagining it. In the years since, that work has become my life’s focus: I’m an intuitive grief counselor, and I believe grief is sacred, the bond you have with someone doesn’t end when they die, and talking openly about death, instead of around it, is one of the most healing things we can do for each other.